The unique mental load of moms with ADHD: Being a mom means managing meals, homework, doctor’s appointments, birthday parties, emotional support, and more. When you add ADHD to the mix, the mental load can become overwhelming. Many moms with ADHD find that planners, routines, and color-coded calendars never seem to stick, and it’s not because they’re lazy or disorganized. Traditional systems simply weren’t built for your brain or your lifestyle.